6 ways to make people like you

Social Media had made it more easy to create a network of people around you. However, I guess everyone agrees on that, the quality of the network is an important factor as well. Especially when you want to utilize the people in the network. There is a lot of sorting and filtering to do.

What if you could qualify people before they become part of your network? How can you make people like you as a human being?

I am currently testing the following 6 points, to increase my network, to maybe become more social and have the right people around me. Let’s join me on the 31 days challenge.

  1. Become genuinely interested in other people.
    • My first hurdle. I am more interested in books, science and technology. I haven’t realized yet the potential in knowing other people and maybe leveraging of this. Note to myself … ask people I meet and see on a daily basis, what they are actually doing, if they like what they are doing and what they are planning next weekend. Just general things, there might something come up that you have in common.
  2. Smile.
    • Oh man, some people are really born with the smile in their face. It comes so natural … I feel like that didn’t happen for me. 😉 Task for the next week for me is to monitor myself when I don’t smile. Create some mind snippets that make you smile. As soon when you realize you should better smile, think of this snippet.
  3. Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
    • Repeating the name of a person 3 times after you’ve heard it the first time, makes you actually remember the person more easily. Maybe we can try to swap mate or buddy for the actual name of the person. 😉
  4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
    • People love to talk about themselves. For a person like me, who is not that talkative, this task is easy. Just listen and acknowledge. How are you doing with this one?
  5. Talk in terms of other person’s interest.
    • That is a bit challenging when you have no clue what the person is talking about or you don’t have any interest in it. What to do? Don’t close down … repeat what the person said in a different way. You might learn something and the person sees that you are interested in him/her.
  6. Make the other person feel important – and do it sincerely.
    • Acknowledge what the person is saying. You might even add something that make the people more comfortable around you, because you “click” with them. Ask them question about their interest and you will their eyes sparkling.

I guess there is a lot we can do to learn more about the other person without asking too personal questions and make them feel uncomfortable. Let’s see how we go in the first week … feel free to comment on your progress! 🙂

 

 

P.S. I am looking for ambitious people working with me in my primary business. If that is you … please contact me!

Update: It has been pointed out several times now that the 6 points are from the book “How to win friends and influence people” by Dale Carnegie. I haven’t read this book yet, but I found the six points in an unreferenced report. I apologize, if I have offended someone. It was not my intention to make the impression that the 6 points have been “discovered” by myself.

5 thoughts on “6 ways to make people like you

  1. It’s amazing how those 6 principles, which were created by Dale Carnegie in the 30’s, still ring true today. You got those from his book, How to Win Friends and Influence People, right?

    1. What I really like is that Generation X and Y are really taking these things on board. These books are not seen anymore as old school.
      Unfortunately, I found out about these 6 principles from a piece of paper that has been given to me without any reference. And I have to admit, I didn’t do any research on them. Thanks for bringing that up.

    1. I have heard about this book and it is part of my “To Read” book pile. I guess next time I do better research about the bullet points I use. However, it is still up to everyone themselves how they implement these.

  2. Hi Josephine,
    I appreciate your posting. I was a bit surprised to find someone saying (in #1) what I had struggled with in an unarticulated fashion.

    Thanks and you are welcome to be my “friend” on Facebook…

    Brett Steven Taylor
    Rock Hill, SC

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