That was my BS (that stands for Belief System, and not what you thought 😉 ) which I now try to change.
You have days when you just feel awesome. Everything works as planned and maybe even better. Opportunities come your way and the world loves you. You are the happiest human being on Earth and you don’t understand why other people are so grumpy, moody and pessimistic.
And then you have days where just nothing works. It takes you hours for writing an email. You do everything else instead of the things on your to-do list. You don’t attend meetings and the whole day just feels like wasted. And it is.
I observed for myself that after days of happiness I crashed and my self-confidence sunk lower than allowed. I was getting very annoyed by all this up and down, as I didn’t see it on other people. So I decided to not to get too excited about things anymore. I acknowledged it, but you wouldn’t see me jumping around with a big smile in my face. This way I was sure that I wouldn’t fall down too deep. It would cost me too much energy to get myself up again.
However, that is not the ultimate solution either. Through personal development I have learned 2 things:
- Don’t take things too personal. When people put you down, acknowledge it and remember it is just their perception. They reflect their world and problems on you. It is nothing to do with you. There is no reason to be down after that and no reason to lose self-confidence. For all things that happen to you 10% are out of your control and 90% are just how you react. You decide if you are angry, upset, depressed or moody. Only you decide how you want to spend your day. Make it worth it!
- Acknowledge that life is not about happiness. Happiness is only one side of it and you don’t want to miss 50% of your life, do you? Life is about experience. I got this from Dr John Demartini. We can’t live without sadness in life. There is always Ying and Yang, up and down, north and south. You can’t have only one side of a magnet.
The change of habit I am working on in the moment is really to control my emotions. The acknowledgement of good and bad is very important to be balanced in life. When things don’t work out as they should, find the things that are currently great in life. When the job is very annoying, you will find yourself in a happy relationship. There is always something that balances out the bad things, but also the good things. This way you don’t get too cocky but neither to low in self-confidence.
Are you trying to be happy in life or did you find the right balance?