what’s holding you back

I have started to write some posts again, and so far they kind of build on each other. I am struggling with seeing myself having success in life. I shared that with a friend of mine, and she started to question me and dig deeper and deeper. And here we go … that’s what I’ve found so far.

You have seen the list of things I enjoy or would like to do. You could ask why am I not doing them, e.g. playing guitar, or why am I not in Fiji next week? What’s holding me back? And that’s where typical excuses come into the game:

  • No money
  • No time
  • No space
  • I’m too big
  • I’m too old
  • I’m to small
  • I don’t have the right clothes
  • I don’t have this
  • I can’t do that

I could go on and on … and yes I am definitely guilty of some of them too. And you can indulge in them, whinge about them, strengthen them … but one thing is for sure … these excuses are holding you back to do the things you like to do. And therefore they are holding you back from being happy and therefore holding you back from being successful.

It’s sad to see that most people just stop here. That’s it. Because of these excuses, they stop living, literally. Maybe that’s the easy way out, the comfortable answer to any challenge. I am guilty here as well.

But … how much do you want to be happy? How badly do you want it? Na, you are all good with where you are? Not causing any troubles? Comfortable in the couch with chips in your hands? Good for you .. but that’s not me. I can be a couch potato in Germany as well. I moved to Australia for a reason. I actually want to live with a smile in my face … I want to be happy! It’s not easy, otherwise everyone would be happy and successful. Life is tough … Life is a journey with up and downs, otherwise it would be really boring.

Take one thing you really would like to do now, find out what’s holding you back. Take this excuse and put it on the table, write it down. For example, you don’t have the money. Why is that? 2 options: too high expenses and too less income. you can now reduce the expenses and/or increase the income … do a brain storm session, maybe with friends and family or just by yourself. You will be surprised what you can do to change. I can’t give you the solutions here, because everyone’s situation is different. Do you have the courage to implement some of the ideas? How much do you want to be happy? It might looks like too much, but if you break it down, everything is possible.

Remember, only when you are happy you can share happiness πŸ˜‰ (it’s one of my favourite sayings)

It won’t happen over night. We have become quite impatient human beings … we want the reward immediately. We didn’t gain weight over night either … it has been accumulated over years of “hard” work πŸ˜‰ … really don’t expect to lose the weight in just a couple of weeks.

Start saving today, be consistent and responsible, it will come. Have faith … believe in something you don’t see. But stay true to yourself. If you start exercising, but haven’t changed your nutrition, don’t expect much change in your body shape. Lot of other topics are popping up now in my mind.

Today I really wanted to make you aware of the excuses we are using, because we are scared to be out of the comfort zone. you might have to do some tough decision, you might lose some friendships. But if they don’t understand the direction you are going, then they were not your friends anyway πŸ˜‰ you will discover a lot of new things in other people but mainly in yourself.

I have made some decision money-wise, but also fitness-wise. I have to put myself first, so I am actually able to help others later … put your mask on first. It won’t happen in the next week, and maybe not even in 4 weeks … but I will make it happen. Because I really want to pick up my guitar in Germany, I want to go to Fiji again and I want to have the best body condition possible to reach the next level in my Boxing career πŸ˜‰

-Rambo Bambi-

2 thoughts on “what’s holding you back

  1. Josefine, my dear friend, I am so very proud of you for taking the very positive steps to move forward despite the difficulties you face. Life is a journey and we all have very different but a mixture of positive and negative experiences. I have found that how I handle and move forward out of those negative experiences that reveal the true measure and character of who I am. I believe and am experiencing right now that to find true happiness and success each of us has to find ONE thing we are really passionate about and do everything possible to pursue and achieve that goal. The greatest distraction and obstacle to us fulfilling that passion is ourselves; not money, time, friends, ability or lack of any of these.

    I commend you my friend for sharing your learnings, experiences and life-journey with others in helping change the world by impacting one individual at a time (starting with ourselves). I am so very proud of you and honoured to have you in my life.

    Keep up the good work; remember, we never stop learning, we never stop growing. Having an open mind, heart and and attitude means that we allow ourselves to be challenged, amazed and blessed everyday of our lives.

    Vinaka Vaka Levu – T3

    1. Vinaka my friend … much appreciated.
      Life is a very interesting journey, isn’t it.
      It’s sometimes not easy to share the failures, but I guess that makes me even more a human, as long as I fail forward and learn from that experience.

      I am really looking forward to sit down with you and friends in Fiji and have a grog session. Although we met on kind of a business level, i think we have become very close friends on a personal level as well. I have learned so much from you and your family.

      thanks for your kind words T3 πŸ™‚

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