Goals

Why is it so hard to stick to  your goals for even just a week?

(Almost) every Sunday night I write down the things I want to get done in the upcoming week … when I am lucky I make it till Wednesday to stick to the list. Then I either don’t even look at the list anymore, because I think I have it in my mind anyway. Or I am getting too tired. Maybe it is just too much on the list. And yes, other things happen as well, things that are out of my control.

What is it with this “Goal Setting” then? I can’t even get it done for one week. Do I seriously have to review it on a daily basis and update it accordingly? Why do I feel about it as too much effort? Are my goals not realistic enough?

And here we go again, self-doubt kicks in:

  • I can’t do that.
  • I am not good enough.
  • I won’t succeed anyway.
  • No one believes me.
  • I don’t have support.
  • I don’t have the money.
  • I don’t have the time.

Ok, solution time … how to get over that? One way to look at it is to write 10 things down I have been successful in. Let’s give it a go:

  1. I live in Australia – which is a dream for so many people
  2. I have a PhD – that means I know some shit 😀
  3. I completed a half-marathon.
  4. I have worked at the MRT-LMB in Cambridge
  5. ….

There we go … I am stuck already … what do I consider as success? Is being healthy success? Is getting promoted in a job something I should be proud of and see it as success, although I don’t like that job, as it is just a necessity for me at the moment? It’s funny, I feel good and successful, when I can make other smile and help them out. Therefore, do I need others to appreciate me for what I have done and only then I feel successful? Why can’t I declare myself to be successful in something without other’s “approval”? Am I a person who needs recognition? Really? Am I that needy?

What does that mean for my goal setting skills? If no one notices and appreciates my effort till Wednesday I am giving up on my own goals, because I think they don’t work. Ok, let’s be a bit more selfish this week. I will have to report on a daily basis to see how I go. Bring it on then 🙂