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I might open up here a can of worms, but what the heck … yes I am watching “The Biggest Loser”. Why? I guess there are different reasons.

  • to see the mental changes the participants are going through
  • what is it, that actually makes a person obese
  • to see the different exercises and strategies the trainers are using
  • what makes the contestants to fall back into the comfort zone
  • and much more …

But there is one thing that was kind of an enlightenment for me. The weakness, errors and drawbacks they are fighting more or less successful against at … I have have them as well. I can yell at the biggest contestant ever to toughen up and get back to training as much as I want. But what I actually do is yelling at myself. I also have to toughen up myself and get back to training, back on track … just in a different matter. I can roll my eyes about that girls’ whinging and mock about her, how she is looking for protection from her mum. Then I see myself, telling my friend about how shitty work is and see myself looking for comfort. But do I do anything about it?

The other thing I have noticed that family can be such a comfort zone, but also your worst enemy. All these emotion during the show … it is a bit out of my circle of understanding. Ok, every family is different, every culture is different … but are obese parents more protective of their children than active parents? I assume that is a massive topic to talk about and worth plenty of blog posts.

But where I want to go with it is really what family means to me. Because my relationship to my family has quite changed a bit in the last year. And it just got triggered again by watching “The Biggest Loser”. I am living 16,000km far away from any family member I have. Do I miss them? Not really. What does it mean to miss someone? I would hardly see family even when I was living in Germany. You can judge me or my family now … but that’s how we are. I can’t change my family, I can only change myself. Don’t get me wrong, I love my parents, but we’re just not that a hugging, hand-holding, peck-giving family.

I don’t want to be seen as a machine anymore without feelings. I think the right people deserve a hug, a smile and peck … and I want to share it because I mean it, not because that is an unwritten law in society. So now you will see me people hugging, but you will also see me refusing a hug because it just feels wrong. I need the right karma for that. Maybe that’s my sixths sense, hehe.

It was a very overwhelming feeling for me when I went to Fiji to meet a new family there. That was a completely new ME, you wouldn’t have recognised me. The warmth I have received there and the warmth I was able to give back (or at least part of it as a beginner) I surprised myself. And it opened up a completely new journey for me, a journey I am really enjoying. Now it is time to share that with my parents, because I think they deserve it. It will be up to them if they accept it or not, but I want to show and tell them that I love them. I can do as many skype calls with them as much as I want … it doesn’t beat sharing something that comes from the heart and you really mean it … true human interaction is the one coming from the heart.

Oh man, that will be interesting.

what’s holding you back

I have started to write some posts again, and so far they kind of build on each other. I am struggling with seeing myself having success in life. I shared that with a friend of mine, and she started to question me and dig deeper and deeper. And here we go … that’s what I’ve found so far.

You have seen the list of things I enjoy or would like to do. You could ask why am I not doing them, e.g. playing guitar, or why am I not in Fiji next week? What’s holding me back? And that’s where typical excuses come into the game:

  • No money
  • No time
  • No space
  • I’m too big
  • I’m too old
  • I’m to small
  • I don’t have the right clothes
  • I don’t have this
  • I can’t do that

I could go on and on … and yes I am definitely guilty of some of them too. And you can indulge in them, whinge about them, strengthen them … but one thing is for sure … these excuses are holding you back to do the things you like to do. And therefore they are holding you back from being happy and therefore holding you back from being successful.

It’s sad to see that most people just stop here. That’s it. Because of these excuses, they stop living, literally. Maybe that’s the easy way out, the comfortable answer to any challenge. I am guilty here as well.

But … how much do you want to be happy? How badly do you want it? Na, you are all good with where you are? Not causing any troubles? Comfortable in the couch with chips in your hands? Good for you .. but that’s not me. I can be a couch potato in Germany as well. I moved to Australia for a reason. I actually want to live with a smile in my face … I want to be happy! It’s not easy, otherwise everyone would be happy and successful. Life is tough … Life is a journey with up and downs, otherwise it would be really boring.

Take one thing you really would like to do now, find out what’s holding you back. Take this excuse and put it on the table, write it down. For example, you don’t have the money. Why is that? 2 options: too high expenses and too less income. you can now reduce the expenses and/or increase the income … do a brain storm session, maybe with friends and family or just by yourself. You will be surprised what you can do to change. I can’t give you the solutions here, because everyone’s situation is different. Do you have the courage to implement some of the ideas? How much do you want to be happy? It might looks like too much, but if you break it down, everything is possible.

Remember, only when you are happy you can share happiness 😉 (it’s one of my favourite sayings)

It won’t happen over night. We have become quite impatient human beings … we want the reward immediately. We didn’t gain weight over night either … it has been accumulated over years of “hard” work 😉 … really don’t expect to lose the weight in just a couple of weeks.

Start saving today, be consistent and responsible, it will come. Have faith … believe in something you don’t see. But stay true to yourself. If you start exercising, but haven’t changed your nutrition, don’t expect much change in your body shape. Lot of other topics are popping up now in my mind.

Today I really wanted to make you aware of the excuses we are using, because we are scared to be out of the comfort zone. you might have to do some tough decision, you might lose some friendships. But if they don’t understand the direction you are going, then they were not your friends anyway 😉 you will discover a lot of new things in other people but mainly in yourself.

I have made some decision money-wise, but also fitness-wise. I have to put myself first, so I am actually able to help others later … put your mask on first. It won’t happen in the next week, and maybe not even in 4 weeks … but I will make it happen. Because I really want to pick up my guitar in Germany, I want to go to Fiji again and I want to have the best body condition possible to reach the next level in my Boxing career 😉

-Rambo Bambi-

Happiness leads to Success

… what do you think?

Let’s try it from this perspective. If you like what you do, things seem to be easier and you accept challenges far more easily as well. Also, you see failures as failing forward and learn from your mistakes. Things are happening and you feel good … doesn’t that feel like success?

So, what are the things I am currently enjoy doing?

  • Cert III in Fitness and not only because I am a student again 😉
  • Looking forward to Cert IV
  • hitting the gym myself
  • getting asked for advice, be it fitness-wise, food-wise or IT related (although I might have already lost some skills for the latter one)
  • boxing … looking so forward to reach the next level with my boxing skills
  • still my raw food journey although I should do more getting some “meals” prepared
  • Anything about Fiji … hype hasn’t calmed down yet. Looking forward to do more traveling over there
  • Looking actually forward to do more family things (be it with family back in Germany, but also having my own little one *blush*)
  • I want to go back playing my guitar

Ok, some actual future goals slipped into that list, but maybe you get the picture. I am actually feeling quite comfortable writing that now … far more relaxed compared to yesterday. You see how easily I got 9 points together … interesting. It’s all a question of where your mind is. Still not smiling though, but this will come over time, heheh!

Next step would be to ask yourself WHY, because that brings you to the next level on understanding yourself. Why do I still stick to that Raw Food “nonsense”? Because I believe that we (human) are meant to eat what Mother Nature gives us. But this is a completely other topic I could talk about for hours and it has been and will be definitely covered in this blog. Oh, by the way, still trying almost desperately now to get my mum of diary milk … mission for life.

Why fitness? I have been active all my life. I only became aware of it, when I started Uni and didn’t more or less move for years. That’s where I started to get back into sport, be it running, soccer, boxing and now I am even on my why to start a career in Personal Fitness. So watch the space … because I am not taking out the science, I am putting it back again 😀

Oh man, this writing flows much better already … I might have found something again. But don’t worry, I get my butt kicked to get back on track.

So, does happiness leads to success? I don’t know … but as long it makes you feel better, you should stick to it I think 🙂

I don’t know if that post will help, but it did help me 😉

The next post should be really about what is stoping you from doing what you enjoy and what to do about … another big topic.

How do I know I am successful?

Default answer would be “when I’ve reached my goal”. That’s what we get taught at school, you pass a test, you are successful. You score a goal, you are successful.

However … success is probably so much more or even something different. With the new age wave came the saying “Success is a journey”. But how can that be success when you stop halfway through. Didn’t you lose out at the end?

Some people say, it was not meant to be your journey or maybe not even your goal. Now I ask, why did that goal come to my mind in the first place then?

Possible answer now could be, that you met new people and you learned new skills, which is always good. Yes, good side effects … but still … I wanted that goal for a reason.

Ok, maybe I will use a personal example.

I haven’t been able to be successful in network marketing yet. I believe strongly in the business model. As long as I was active I met new people. But it was hard to keep them entertained. Maybe not the right people and only the right ones still stick around me now. Did I learn new skills? I don’t know … I guess not, otherwise I would have made it, no?

Now I can be upset that I haven’t made it yet in network marketing, but that would be silly and a waste of time. However, I don’t see the success in that journey … I’ve put quite some time and effort into that journey. Didn’t I do what I got told to do? sometimes and sometimes not. Is that it?

I think I connect success with getting something out of it. And I am still not valuing a human connection enough … damn it, this human thingy. It drives me nuts. Ok, ok, that was only an example.

Back to the initial exercise … which was to find 10 things I was successful in so far, and I only could list 5 things in the last post. So, finding a new friend who becomes a very close friend … is that success? It doesn’t feel like it for me, because I am not valuing it enough 🙁

Is success finding someone/something that makes me happy? Then a new friend would qualify for that. Or my trip to Fiji. “Finding” seems to be the wrong word here, it should be “discovering”. Because you are not planning to make friends, it just happens, doesn’t it?

I am still not comfortable to put that on the list though. Both “items” changed my life and probably will keep doing so …. success or faith?

I don’t know if that post went into the right direction … it feels like it was not successful, as I still haven’t completed my list. Is success measurable? it should be, kind of … as I can list it according to the exercise 😉

Ok, give me a break here ….