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My confidence

859677_10200094397937378_1323995973_oI want my self-confidence back. Firstly, confidence is sexy. (words borrowed from my husband). Secondly, it would give me more stability, better posture and a clearer mind. The question is now how. I need to stop feeling pity for myself. What happened in the past happened. I can’t change that anymore. I have to acknowledge that. And my past is not full of mistakes, I had success and good times as well. I should embrace that.
I need to live now and plan, budget and save for the future. If I can get my family involved the better.
Let’s do it day by day. On a daily basis I won’t let anyone put me down. Daily I will plan and review. No doubt anymore and no worries.
It’s another start into a new week today. I will face it with all its up and downs.
Peace out!

Watch people

Having a bit of time off from your routine is always refreshing. But it can also put you in a situation that is outside if your comfort zone.
You see your work mates at least 5 days a week in working mood and working clothes. Then you are out with them for a special training weekend. Everyone is dressed up, you hear new stories from your mate, sometimes even quite personal ones.
I love to listen and watch such scenes. People are opening up, suddenly things become more clearer to you. And you also might be disappointed by others. Not everyone is walking their talk.
On the other side, what information are you giving away? Do you let yourself go? Do you reveal your darkest secrets? What do want your colleagues to know about your?

The change if environment also changes people. Therefore we never should judge people from the state we always see them in. Be open to learn more about others, you might even share an interest.

Change of environment also gives people the opportunity to maybe tell you how much they appreciate what you do and you might see your working place differently from now on.

If you get the chance to change environment and/or step outside of your comfort zone, do it. Human behavior is such so amazing and the more you know the better you will be able to benefit.

How much do you reveal?

I will show you how great I am

Do you remember who said that? Right, Cassius Marcellus Clay Jr, aka Muhammed Ali. His famous “trash talks” before the actual fight played a very important role. The hardest part of a fight is not in the ring, it’s the time you spent before the fight.

The “trash talks” are part of the mental training. I guess the art of “trash talk” is really to “impress” the person in front of you. Unfortunately, most people use “trash talks” against themselves. It is not about being mean to someone. “Trash talks” are about showing self-confidence, showing that you are ready to win that fight or any other challenge you are confronted with.

Since the movie “The Secret” came out, I am sure everyone is aware of what affirmations are. Sentences you are saying to yourself to influence your subconsciousness. To do affirmations right, you should follow the following 5 points:

  • Use positive words
  • Use present tense
  • Use first person (I or we)
  • Be detailed
  • Use emotions, tone and energy

Imagine how you can impress your opponent by saying affirmations out loud. Sounds like “trash talk? I would say so.

  • I will show you how great I am.
  • I am a leader and I am making it with or without you.
  • I am successful.

Muhammed Ali is now a legend. Who are you right now? My trash talk for you is

I know what I am capable of, watch the space! I am ready to do what it takes to succeed.

Sounds big? It is, and for myself to putting it out like this, I have to be accountable now. The people I am working with know more details. You want to know more? Get in  contact with me now!

I am out of my comfort zone, where are you?

Passion can be heard

Wealth creation seminars have been around now for a little while. Maybe after attending 10 of them, you might have discovered a common pattern. There are good and bad ones. You might have even found the solution to your problems and you did the necessary steps to grow your business or yourself.

One word that always comes up and is highly related with becoming wealthy is Passion. If you follow your passion, the money will come. Sure, there are still some missing parts, but over all that is a fair statement. I would put it this way: If  what you do is your passion, things seems to be a bit easier.

In the last couple of years, I was looking for my passion. The question is how do you do that? How can you find your passion? There is no clear answer to it, because it will be different for everyone.

I wished sometimes I could see and hear myself. That I could step out of myself, so I can find out how I look like and how I act like when I am doing something I love to do. I have learnt a lot about myself and what I love to do in the last couple of months. It surprises me that things we got told when we were a child, still affect us 20 or 30 years later.

I slowly start to realize and accept a part in me, that has been suppressed all my life. On several occasions I discovered myself in enjoying a process. I loved sharing my knowledge. I could feel it, because I felt comfortable doing it. Sure I am still stumbling, but because I know the subject and I feel it is important to be shared, I don’t care that my English is not perfect. I might be actually passionate about it.

You also will notice the feedback you get from other people. Because passion can be heard. When something is done with heart, people will receive it there. People will listen and want more. Observe yourself and others. How comfortable do you feel when sharing your story or business? Is it your talking or someone else?

Now, when I am scheduled to talk, I am more than happy to do so. I am proud that I reached this state in my business. I expanded my comfort zone. Time now to crack the next challenge.

How did you find your passion or are you still looking?

When do you start to believe in yourself?

When do you start do believe in yourself? Do you wait for approval from others? Do you wait till people tell you that they are proud of you? Do you wait until you can see results?

For most of the things we want to achieve, we can’t see or feel the results mostly until we have done 90% of the work and the rest is just polishing. But how many people give already up when they have only done 10% of the work? Expecting immediate results is as unrealistic as getting obese overnight. It builds up slowly over a long time period, but eat every day a little bit too much of the wrong food and I promise you obesity in 5 to 10 years. (maybe it is not the best example, but people want to lose weight overnight without realizing that it took them a while to actually reach that state)
Or even more sad, people give up when 89% has been done. They have the impression nothing is moving, there is nothing they can show for. And unfortunately we trust other people’s opinion more than our own guts. And after so long you start to doubt and listen to others. You have worked hard already for so long but you just can’t see the success around the next corner.

When you start believing in yourself, then there is no doubt that you will reach your goal. You don’t need to be motivated because you are inspired enough from within. Give yourself the patience and persistence to keep going, no matter what. It is not easy, but doing one little step everyday towards your goal is simple.

Do you have friends or family who don’t want you to succeed, because it would mean for them to get out of their comfort zone too? You are the first person who has to believe in your dreams, no one else. You don’t need confirmation or permission from others, you just need to believe in yourself.